Seven reasons bloggers don't blog

Admittedly, this post is highly subjective, based mainly on my personal experience. (That's why it would be mighty keen if you'd post your reasons for not blogging in the comments below. See you there!)

1. The biggest reason I don't blog is I don't like to publish fluff or drivel. If I have something important to say, I'll feel compelled to write about it. If not, see you in 15 days, which will feel like 33 days, because—no blogging. The silence feels deafening.

2. I want to sound off on something, but I'm mindful of how posts on a certain topic might be perceived by those I might to minister to or alongside. I'd rather stay silent now than risk alienating folks on non-essential issues. Love first; blogging comes in a far second.

3. Writing prophetically is tiring. I long for the Church to become a place where men and women serve as full partners and powerful allies. But not everyone wants to hear or appreciates this message. Without positive and inspiring interactions on this topic, I tend to step back until I can refuel and share in appropriate and life-giving ways that stimulate productive conversation. If I "speak loudly," I have a good reason, such as I did with this post: "Dear Church: How Will You Respond to #YesAllWomen?"

4. I'm more introverted than I ever imagined. I might appear extroverted at times, but inside I'm looking forward to personal processing time. I see the difference in how my extroverted husband wants to talk and act when big things are happening, and I want to take a quiet bike ride or a walk or write in my journal. I love people and I like spending time with them—especially having in-depth conversations—but I need a good deal of time to recover from them. (Yes, introverts?) So process, process, process, then blog.

5. We are writing a book. And the book-writing process can be an all-consuming monster, sucking the very marrow from our bones and the grey matter from our heads. (Ah, the melodrama!) To speak frankly, this process hijacks our brains and we are not free to blog about the contents of said book at this time. We're saving it for the publisher. Lord, have mercy on those who must live with us during this brain drain stage. (For laughs, see this post on 5 Reasons Your First Book Release Might Drive You Crazy.)

6. Big things are happening in life. Surgery, seminary, book release, loss, grief, decisions, and transition. From one church to another. From health struggles to wholeness. Nurturing new relationships as old ones move on. At any point in the journey, a writer or blogger faces numerous life obstacles, transitions and looming decisions. Space is often needed to handle these challenges well. And when given, the blogger will eventually be able to write thoughtfully and hopefully intelligently  on these important but ordinary topics, encouraging and building points of connections with readers. I experienced infertility for over five years, but mainly wrote about it during the last year of the struggle. So much had coalesced in my mind; it was wonderfully freeing to share it with others experiencing it, too.

7. Blogging is not living. Today I drove a struggling friend around town and listened to problems I cannot solve. I asked her a simple question: "What gives you hope in this situation?" This was just a small way I am called to love. Loving the community around me deeply doesn't happen if I am consumed with blogging, so I often choose investing in real live people instead. Then there is guitar-strumming. And gluten-free baking. And a little online Hebrew class. Phone calls and dinners, and all that life can hold. Eventually, all this living will result in ideas for blogging, though that's not the main purpose for leaning in to my own little patch of the world.

What about you? Do you resonate with my top seven reasons a blogger doesn't blog?

If I am honest, my main reason for blogging was to connect with potential book readers. But along the way, this became the best reason of all: because when I write words from the heart that transfer to another person's situation or life, I connect and am moved by the words others share in return. My own journey is enriched in the process, and the learning and discovery continues, one blog post at a time.

Please share your top reasons for not blogging below. And the most important reasons you do blog after all.